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Finding Eldercare in Mexico and Beyond: What Recent Media Interviews with Me and Others Reveal About the U.S. Caregiving Crisis

When it comes to navigating the older adult care crisis in the U.S., there is no single solution. Every family and elder I speak with faces a unique, incredibly complex set of circumstances. When they cannot find viable solutions at home, they are increasingly searching for affordable care elsewhere—mainly long-term care in Mexico due to its proximity and climate, or in nations where they qualify for a second heritage passport.

In recent magazine and podcast interviews, we dive into this international perspective—unpacking real-world pros and cons of domestic care and the honest truths of crossing borders for help.

In 2024, I wrote an extensive piece about eldercare beyond U.S. borders and why families are running out of options at home: Finding Eldercare/Senior Care Abroad.

That post brought insightful journalists to my door.

The first was Hikari Mae Hida, an international journalist and translator who deeply understands caregiving through her own global reporting and family experiences. Her well-crafted story for Deseret Magazine, (apologies as Deseret requires registry to read) “The Great Global Caregiving Crisis,” masterfully outlines the high-stakes families face. The article opens with my serious question:

“What if we live a long life and are abandoned or without funds despite our best efforts?” For Wendy Jane Carrel, a senior care specialist with over two decades of experience who operates the consulting service Wellness Shepherd, this question is a looming reality.

I am grateful to Hikari for quoting me throughout and bringing vital mainstream attention to this systemic issue. You can explore more of her work at Hikari Mae Hida’s Official Site.

International social impact consultant Anna de la Cruz published a powerful, deeply personal account of the care economy for Slate. Her article, “Exporting Our Elders,” (sorry, no complimentary read from Slate),highlights my mission at Wellness Shepherd to help families discover compatible, affordable long-term care workarounds abroad. Thank you, Anna, for sharing your heart-wrenching story as a sandwich-generation caregiver balancing young children while managing complex, high-stakes medical logistics for your disabled brother and your parents. Learn more about Anna’s consulting work at Anna De La Cruz | Social Impact Consulting.

Following that piece, Anna Sale—the creator and host of Slate’s Death, Sex, and Money podcast—invited Anna de la Cruz to share her story on air. The episode also featured Laura Silverstein, a Seattle-based Aging Life consultant who helped design the care plan for Anna’s mother, and me.

My reflection “humane eldercare has often become a luxury item” ended up as the header for the episode. A quick disclaimer if you listen to the podcast: you may wonder if I was recovering from watching a weepie movie! Between my “stealth-whisper” and sounding unrecognizable – I usually deliver actionable advice and solid support nuggets – I have determined host Anna Sale’s famously hypnotic, soothing voice must have lulled me into a trance.

You can hear the full episode on Slate: Humane Eldercare Has Often Become a Luxury Item

Ultimately, my hope is that these stories continue to spark an urgent conversation: the critical need for a more affordable, dignified, and humane care infrastructure throughout the nation.

© Wendy Jane Carrel 2026

Wendy Jane Carrel, MA, is a trusted Older Adult Advocate and Cross-Border Consultant who has hands-on experience with healthcare systems, Aging in Place, international retirement transitions, long-term care, palliative care, and end-of-life care in Mexico, Ecuador, other nations, and the USA. She provides informed, thoughtful guidance and curated, compatible care options for reitrees, solo agers, families, and their loved ones. She is a speaker and published author on subjects related to senior well-being and a trauma-informed end-of-life doula. Wendy’s web site is http://www.WellnessShepherd.com.

Resources:

https://www.businessinsider.com/long-term-care-costs-growing-problem-for-americans-2026-8

https://www.businessinsider.com/eldercare-crisis-long-term-care-costs-families-2026-8

https://www.elderlawanswers.com/long-term-care-costs-are-hollowing-out-generational-wealth-21539

https://www.usatoday.com/story/money/2026/03/12/aarp-us-costs-middle-class-home-care-crisis/89085293007

https://www.aol.com/articles/dolly-parton-said-her-last-163041000.html Neal K. Shah on caregiving and Dolly Parton’s comments about caregiving her husband, an important part of the care conversation

https://www.thetimes.com/money/family-finances/article/care-costs-retirement-thailand-abroad-expats-personal-finance-695jxcvcn An older adult couple finds an affordable solution with a positive outcome at Care Resort Chiang Mai, Thailand (sorry, there is a paywall with The Times)

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Guidelines for Choosing Assisted Living/Nursing Care in Mexico

Gardens at Casa de las Lunas in Puerto Vallarta with independent living, assisted living and respite care, private pay

According to realtors at Lake Chapala, Mexico, and the information desk at the Lake Chapala Society in Ajijic, the popular ex-pat retirement destination has received more than double the no. of potential renters, buyers, and information hungry folks from Canada and the U.S. than in years before. (Other popular retirement destinations are also seeing an increase in activity – see no. 3 below).

Among visitors intent on moving are travel aficionados looking for a unique cultural experience, the prospect of meeting stimulating people from all parts of the world, but more importantly, an opportunity to stretch their dollars.

And then there is senior living and healthcare, a subject of interest for most. For “sandwich-generation” boomers who lost savings and/or homes during the American recession of 2007-8, or spent savings for the education of millennial children or grandchildren, many are finding there may be little left for themselves or parents if assisted living or nursing care are ever required.

An added concern is that funding for Medicare and Medicaid in the U.S. are currently being challenged.

Alma, a non-profit home for 40 residents in San Miguel Allende

If the cost of assisted and continuing care in Canada (Canada takes care of its disabled, ill, and older adults through universal care programs but there is also private pay care) or the U.S. is not an option, there are more affordable options in other countries. The closest place to look is Mexico.

Here are guidelines for looking at assisted living and continuing care in Mexico, costing between $600 USD to $3500 USD/month, depending on the value of the American dollar and the Canadian dollar vs. the peso, the location, and the residence you choose:

  1. Take note – in Mexico the terms assisted living and “nursing home” are often one and the same, with exceptions. Care facilities are not known as they are north of the border – assisted living, rehabilitation, nursing home, and hospice. It is often an all-in-one approach. Also, with some exceptions, homes mix physically disabled residents with memory care residents.
  2. Select cities or areas you wish to be in for climate – coastal, desert, mountains. (Coastal tropical places cost a little more because A/C is expensive).
  3. If the future resident does not speak Spanish, seek places with ex-pat communities and English-speaking locals who are often a source of volunteers – Baja California Norte (Ensenada, Rosarito Beach, Tijuana), Cancun, Lake Chapala, Mazatlan, Mexico City, Puerto Vallarta. Or, choose smaller places such as Merida, and San Miguel Allende. Some care homes have all foreigners as residents, others locals and foreigners together. Usually one person on staff speaks English, sometimes more than one.
  4. Do the due diligence. Research places and determine costs. Most assisted living and “nursing homes” catering to foreigners have web sites in English easily found on Google Search.
  5. Consider private pay homes and non-profits, as well as residences run by nuns whether you are Catholic or not. Nuns often (but not always) provide quality care as most are nurses with a mission to serve, plus costs tend to be what Mexicans would pay if price is a consideration. Another level of care is found in government homes, some pleasant others not; some accept foreigners with residency cards. There are differences in every region of the country, and there are no rules.
  6. Note: no two places will be alike – financially, environmentally, socially, and in terms of care. Homes are not regulated with the strict standards one is accustomed to in Canada and the U.S.  However, there are places with quality care and high standards.
  7. Conduct site visits. Assess for yourself what might be an acceptable match in terms of environment and people. Would you or your loved one feel comfortable and safe? Do you like the space, the staff?  How are you welcomed? Do residents seem cared for or are they alone in “God’s waiting room” without attention and activities? Ask residents what they like best and what they don’t like. How clean is the home? Standards differ from place to place. Arrive at meal time… is there enough assistance for each resident? Is food fresh, nutritious, and nicely presented? Is it food you would or could eat? Does the home prepare meals compatible with health challenges? What about care plans and medication management? What about emergencies? How are these matters handled?

Patio at a private pay “nursing” home, Casa Nostra, at Lake Chapala

 

Casa de los Abuelos DIF (government) home for seniors, Morelia – these homes are intended for Mexican nationals but on occasion persons with residency visas who pay are accepted, depends on the place and availability

There are no simple answers for selection.

Ideally, we would all have perfect health to our last days and an abundance of funds which would allow us to receive the best possible care wherever we choose to live.

Note: CCRC’s (Continuing Care Retirement Communities, from independent living to demise), now referred to as Life Plan Communities, have not arrived in Mexico, with one exception. There are plans in the works for Life Plan Communities in Baja California, Cancun, and at Lake Chapala from American, Canadian, Mexican, and Spanish developers.

References:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=2&v=6lYA7c1Pnuo   Ajijic, Mexico video 2017

http://www.pbs.org/newshour/bb/foreign-retirees-flocking-mexico/

https://www.seniorhousingforum.net/blog/2016/8/3/will-mexico-solve-senior-living-affordability-problem